In my early days of motherhood, I would go home from work and tell my son, who was acting out, I will never have a child that acts like the kid at school.
I Will Never
In June, D and I were driving to his psychiatry appointment. These appointments always seem to create an unbelievable amount of anxiety in him, therefore in me. The radio is too loud, the song is stupid, he is hungry, I am being mean because I will not stop and get him a toy, and … and … and … *sigh*
This particular day, we were listening to the radio and Focus on the Family came on. Generally, I Will Never listen to that show with the kids in the car. This particular day was different…D and I listened, we talked about the story, we cried together, and we arrived at the psychiatrist’s office peacefully.
As we have been through these times, we have had a lot of I Will Never moments. Similar to my other I Will Never moments in life, I have learned to never say never.
I have learned that D was not acting like the kid at school on purpose. On the outside, sure, they looked alike. However, the truth is, they had very different situations. D was acting out because he has high functioning autism. By the time I got home, he was overstimulated, overwhelmed with what happened in his day, and was at the point that he had to release the energy…similar to a volcano’s eruption.
I Will Never
When I heard Jane Lee Bateman’s story on Focus on the Family, I knew I had to find this woman. I had to reach out and thank her. God has been telling me for several years to share our story, but the thought of writing a book to share with others is daunting, time consuming, emotionally raw, and quite honestly, frightening. Jane Lee Bateman had done that, and she was sharing her story with beautiful mamas just like you and me; mamas around the world who are hurting, scared, and crying out to God for help, reassurance, peace, and love.
Jane Lee Bateman’s story was just what I needed, so when I found her online, I started with emailing her and sharing our story with a note of thanks. Then I found that she has written a book, I Will Never. She used that phrase in regards to moments in her life too. I started reading the book on my kindle and immediately knew, others need this book!
I recently got an email update from Jane’s blog and found out that she would be at a book signing in a local bookstore on Saturday, November 23rd. I told the kids we are going and the first thing out of D’s mouth was, Mama, will I get to meet her boys? I told him it was highly unlikely.
Daniel, the son that D relates to, has passed away and is spending his days in a perfect, heavenly body. David, her other son, lives several hours away and the chances of him coming to hang out with his mama at a book signing were slim to none. After all, he has a precious wife and a beautiful house full of his own children.
Saturday morning, I was lollygagging around (that’s southern speak for moving slowly) and thought I had plenty of time. Around 12:30 I decided I had better call the store and verify the times of the book signing. We were LATE! It starts at 1, 35-40 minutes away, oh no!
We hustled to get dressed and get there, walking in just a few minutes before it was over. I walked up and introduced myself, Pouty, and D to her. When I introduced herself, a man walked from behind the table and said, Hi, I’m David! It did not register with me until he was then introduced as her son.
He happened to be driving through town and stopped to see his mama just before we got there. He had no plans to be there, he had not told his mama he would be there, but he and his wife stopped in to surprise her.
D had asked if he would be able to meet him, I said no, but God knew!
God heard the desires of my sweet boy’s heart. God knew that it was important to my D to meet Jane Lee Bateman’s son. I hugged her neck, I got the precious moment to thank her, but D got what we were really there for.
Trust in the Lord, and do good; dwell in the land and befriend faithfulness.
Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.
He was given the gift of just a few sweet moments to see that her son, the sibling of the one he relates to, had grown up to be such a fine man. D was given the gift, and frankly, so was I, of seeing the other side, the end result of this crazy we are living right now. As an added bonus, David and his wife showed D a picture of their family. They have also adopted a non-caucasian child. Their family looked very similar to ours.
God took David Bateman to that store to answer a prayer for my D. It was all his perfectly orchestrated timing. Really, I don’t think this had anything to do with me, or the author/speaker that I longed to meet.
This was about my son, meeting her son, and seeing that all thing work for the good of those who love God (Romans 8:28).
**A quick update: While we were out of the house Wednesday night, I received an email from Jane Bateman. Her son David wants to send D a quick note occasionally. I cannot begin to tell you how much that means to me. Their family is just full of angels!**
This book was such a heart changer for me that I decided to purchase an author-signed copy to offer in a giveaway on my blog. If you prefer to go ahead and purchase a copy of the book, you can find it on Amazon. It would make a great gift for a beautiful mama in need of encouragement.
This giveaway will run through Thursday, December 5, 2013 at 9 p.m. EST. It is open to U.S. residents ages 18 and older. The winner will be chosen by the plug-in, “And the winner is…” and will be notified by email within 24 hours. The winner will also have 24 hours to reply with a mailing address or another winner will be chosen.
To enter, simply leave a comment telling me why you would like to read this book, or how God changed you during an I will never moment. One comment per person, duplicate comments will be deleted.
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you.
Not as the world gives do I give to you.
Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.
**CONGRATULATIONS, DENISE!!!! You are the winner of
one signed copy of I Will Never, by Jane Lee Bateman.**